Good day People of GOD
GOD’s love is unconditional, but once you have accepted CHRIST, and you are now in the Fold, forgiveness of sin is conditional upon you forgiving others. See the LORD’s Prayer in Luke 11: 4: ‘And forgive us our sins; for we also forgive every one that is indebted to us. And lead us not into temptation; but deliver us from evil. (KJV)’. In fact, for GOD to answer your prayers or accept your sacrifice, you have to forgive your neighbor and/or reconcile with him or her (Matthew 5: 24). In a previous post titled, ‘Matthew 18: 21-22 LORD, HOW MANY TIMES SHALL I FORGIVE MY BROTHER OR SISTER WHO SINS AGAINST ME? UP TO SEVEN TIMES?’, we looked at forgiveness and why it is in your own interest to forgive and release someone in your heart.
However, JESUS counsels us to reconcile with people before we come before GOD! This takes courage sometimes. So, it is not just enough to forgive in your heart, but where possible, you should reconcile with that person. Where it is feasible, you should reconcile with somebody you have had something against so that nothing hinders your prayers.
So, I know that sometimes it is hard to reconcile with somebody who hurt you. If find it easier to apologise to, and reconcile with I intentionally or unintentionally hurt, than having to reconcile with somebody that hurt me. Usually, if the person sincerely apologizes and acknowledges they were wrong, I reconcile with them, but if they do not care about the consequences of what they did to me, then I just keep to myself.
When we were growing up, we were taught to be ‘fools’ for JESUS. So, even if someone is behaving really bad or is so unkind, you should still be kind to them. Proverbs 25: 21-22 says:
However, the problem sometimes is that when you are ‘too nice’, people take you for granted and trample on your feelings. And they could even bully you on top of everything else.
Nonetheless, if there is an issue that came up in important relationships with: your spouse, kids, parents, siblings, other family members, prayer partners, pastor, fellow believers, etc, and that relationship is one that you have benefited from in the past, maybe reconciliation is a good thing. So, you have to swallow your pride, be mature and make an effort towards reconciliation with that person. GOD will definitely be proud of you. But, if that person does not want to be your friend or is reluctant towards reconciling with you, then, you are absolved from the duty to reconcile and there will be no more barriers to your prayers.
Now, when a problem comes up in your relationship with someone else:
- DO NOT ignore the problem or issue that has come up. The more you ignore the issue, the worse it gets. Take out the weeds now, before they grow bigger!
- If you are the one who is wrong, say sorry!
- If you are upset about anything and you know they did not mean to upset or hurt you, tell them how you feel. If you don’t express your feeling of hurt or anger, they will fester like a wound and would grow to bitterness, and destroy the relationship.
- Be honest. Be honest about your feelings, the wrongs you committed, the wrongs they committed, and that you are willing to forget everything and move forward and hope they will too.
- Communication is the bedrock of any relationship. Without proper and honest communication, relationships just break down. Encourage communication in that relationship, and see it grow!
Finally, Paul says: ‘For God has not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind (2 Timothy 1: 7 King James 2000 Bible).’ Who is that person with whom you need to reconcile? Take the bold step and initiate the reconciliation process. This will restore the relationship, make you happier, and make GOD proud!
P.S.: By the way, apart from ‘I’m sorry’, ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ are still magic words.
GOD bless you and Peace.
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